When you and your partner are trying to get pregnant there
are some do’s and don’ts for scheduling sex. Just because you’ve written sex
down on your calendar doesn’t mean it’s just another obligation that eats up
your time and lacks excitement. After all, this appointment has a far bigger
upside than the average visit to the dentist.
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Do put sex on your calendar. Believe it or not, looking forward to intercourse all week
can be very exciting. Verbal foreplay leading up to intercourse only increases
the excitement.
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Do plan a date that night if possible to make it a full-fledged
romantic evening. Making it just about the sex
increases your pressure to perform.
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Do engage in foreplay. On
TV and in movies, you often see the ovulating woman demand sex the minute her
body temperature leads her to believe it’s the best time. Make sure to keep it
romantic and intimate. Some light massage, touching, and kissing should do the
trick.
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Do mix it up. Remember
that although some positions are supposed to be better when you’re trying to
conceive, that doesn’t mean you have to stay in the same one the whole time.
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Do keep it spontaneous. Knowing
the exact date you’re going to have sex doesn’t mean the setting has to stay
the same. Play music, light candles, take a warm bath (not too hot — remember,
you don’t want to overheat the boys!), or even play out a fantasy if your
partner is onboard.
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Do help make the aftermath enjoyable. Your partner may want to elevate her legs and stay in
bed for a while after intercourse to give the semen the best chance to stay
put. Help her elevate her legs, and then put on her favorite show or read to
her from a book. Don’t just get up and leave her alone.
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Do have unscheduled sex. Letting
nature run its course every once in a while is okay, even when your road to
conception is more like driving in bumper-to-bumper traffic than the autobahn.
After ejaculation, sperm can live in a woman’s reproductive tract for up to
five days.
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Don‘t try too hard. Sex
carries its own set of complex, anxiety-inducing expectations, but now that the
expectations include creating a baby, the pressure can become downright
overwhelming. If you experience performance issues, either mental or physical,
due to the stress of the moment, talk it out with your partner. You won’t do
anyone a favor by having sex as if you’re taking the SAT.
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Don‘t talk about the baby. Unless
talking about getting her pregnant is a turn-on to your partner, keep the baby
discussion out of the sex equation. Although trying to have a baby does indeed
require sex, talking about getting her pregnant while engaging in intercourse
likely won’t set your bedroom on fire.
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Don‘t drink before you have sex. Alcohol can cause performance issues, and the last thing you
want to do is let your partner down because you had one too many beers.
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Don‘t assume your partner isn’t interested in both pleasure and
conception. In fact, studies show that women
who orgasm have a greater chance of conceiving than those who don’t.
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Don‘t make her laugh afterward. Keeping a sense of humor during sex is always a good thing,
but keep the comedy to a minimum after you ejaculate. Laughing tenses muscles
that cause the semen to come out, reducing the chance of conception.
By: Matthew M.F. Miller & Sharon Perkins
Source: www.globaltipsgh.com
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